No matter how your relationship now stands, getting a divorce takes an understanding between both parties. Mediation is a more civilized method of organizing a divorce, which allows both parties to communicate in the same room with a mediator on hand to walk through each step of the process mutually. This avoids the court system and puts the decisions back in the hands of the parties involved.

Mediation appointments cover the full range of issues that apply. There is a lot to consider when going through a divorce, which we’ll discuss here. In our previous article, Benefits of Mediation for Divorcing Couples, we took a look at a range of issues, and outlined some of the foremost concerns: Parenting, Child Support, Bank Accounts, Assets and Debts, Pension, Spousal Support, Gifts Prior to Marriage, Inheritance, Credit Cards, and Credit Lines or Loans. Outside of these primarily economic issues, the couple should consider whether mediation is appropriate or if the parties will be unable to come to an agreement. Mediation requires a dynamic of communication, unlike litigation, and if that is unattainable then the process will likely go through litigation or courts. It is worth bearing in mind that 90% of mediated divorcing couples will never enter the court system, saving economic and mental health. The pre-mediation interview will discern whether mediation with Divorce & Family Mediation Center in Kelowna will be a compatible solution. The first step will determine where the couple stands in terms of the communication dynamic, and whether a successful outcome may be achieved.

Asking the Tough Questions About Divorce

In deciding if divorce is the best course of action, there are several questions you should be asking yourself: Are the standards for the marriage impossibly high? Have I considered my role in difficulties? Do I want a divorce, or a better marriage?

In answering some of these questions, you may realize that divorce is not what you had wanted after all. However, for many couples, divorce is just the next step in the course of their life. When you have weighed your decision, and feel confident now is the time, contact us here or by phone.

If you are not confident that divorce is right, it may be due to external factors. Things such as how you will support yourself, where you will live, or how will this effect children and other family? These are some of the questions that mediation seeks to resolve, but it is important to take the time to consider these before making any final decisions. Is divorce being used to try to provoke a change in the relationship? Then divorce may not be the solution you are seeking. Finding what is right for yourself takes time.

Mediated Divorce in Kelowna

We have explored some of the key areas that divorce impacts, as well as some of the key questions that should be considered before starting mediation. Finding the common ground and resolving divorce without pressing litigation can save sanity and money for the couple. Daniel Mandelbaum is a Certified Family Mediator from the Justice Institute of British Columbia and has long-term experience in negotiation and mediation. Previously, he worked as a Family Therapist in Argentina. As a mediator in Kelowna, Daniel creates a comfortable environment where both parties can discuss the implications of divorce and find creative ways to share assets. Read over our frequently asked questions page and when you are prepared to reach out, fill out the pre-mediation interview form and receive contact with the next steps.