Getting the most out of your mediation sessions will take an understanding of exactly what you are preparing for. At the outset, there are a number of things to get in order. Depending on the current state of the relationship of the couple, meaning how far apart their goals are in mediation, the amount of time required to mediate can vary considerably. The mediator is here to facilitate discussion and move through each point of contention smoothly, addressing the thoughts and concerns of both parties equally. Unlike the adversarial court process, mediation will save you time, money, and mental strength by working towards a common end goal, as opposed to fighting through lawyers in court. Before you begin, it is essential to understand that the dynamic of communication must be open between the involved parties. To resolve the dispute, whatever it may be, communication is the stepping stone to the resolution that both sides are seeking. Take this into consideration as you begin planning for mediation, it will make the entire process much smoother if there is an open channel of communication.

Things to Know in the Okanagan When Starting Mediation

1. Mediation is not marriage or couples counselling

This difference is key. During each session, we will have a goal in mind. While there is time for discussion and openness, it differs from counselling or therapy as we are always focused on what we want to reach. That might be how to divide assets or debts, family matters, or business issues – whatever it might be, that is our goal for the current session and we are trained on finding resolution for that matter.

2. Mediators are a neutral third-party

There is no such thing as “choosing sides” for a mediator. Many are familiar with the court system and how lawyers are required to represent their client’s interests fully. Also, lawyers are unable to represent both parties as that would create a conflict of interest.

Therefore mediation is useful when there is still a dynamic of communication between the parties. A mediator is able to meet with both parties while working towards a mutual goal – resolving conflict through discussion and finding equitable solutions.

3. Mediation can resolve many types of issues

Beyond divorce and dividing assets, mediation also can resolve disputes of all types. Whether it is issues within an ongoing relationship or struggles with past finances, mediation is the key to finding resolution without having to enter into a court battle. For these reasons, many advise seeking and attempting mediation as a first line before moving into court.

We pride ourselves on providing meaningful mediation that addresses the core of each issue effectively to produce the best results for everyone involved. As a neutral third-party, Daniel Mandelbaum has a wealth of experience that he brings to each new mediation, ensuring that everyone receives the same standard of care that has made his practice known.

Discover how mediation can help you, fill out our pre-mediation form  and let’s talk today!